I am on the "Jeter should have gone" side. If players who are voted in by the fans can decide for themselves whether or not they show up, then we need to get rid of fan voting completely (well, this actually isn't such an awful idea...). He is not an all star this year by any stretch, but the fans still voted him in. They wanted to see him. So just go. For the record, I like Jeter a lot. I think this was some poor judgment though.