which is worse

[Lkr]

???

[reno]

Obviously failure cause who likes to [expletive] up. I'd rather be afraid of [expletive]ing up then actually [expletive]ing up. Just because you [expletive] up doesn't mean you wont be afraid of [expletive]ing up, it just means you aren't very smart. I know the response you're looking for will probably fall int the lines between, its better to fail and give an attempt, than to never give it a shot cause you're afraid of failure. You live in learn. My response? [expletive] that, im not gonna be afraid no nobody.

[Multi-Billionaire]

The fear of failure is infinitely worse than failure itself.

 

People are gonna be faced with failure(s) in their journey to success/ achievement. Here's what people need to know: failures are inevitable if you want to achieve success. Whether or not one treats failure(s) as a temporary or permanent one is up to the person. The person who treats a failure as a permanent one will quit and be defeated. The person who treats their failure as temporary will get back up after being knocked down and find ways to learn from failures. E.g. Real Deal kept rebuilding OTR after being hacked numerous times. The last hack was definitely the worst, as OTR was not only hacked but deleted! Most board owners would just say, "why should I do it again? It will be hacked again... I'll just forget about this and do something else..." but not Real Deal... he saw it as a TEMPORARY failure/ defeat, and say, "OTR will be back stronger than ever"... and it is. Had he had a FEAR of failure, OTR would have been a thing of the past. This place would not exist.

 

Noone is ever defeated unless they accept defeat.

 

 

It was said that Edison tried and failed 10,000 times before he invented light bulb. Along the way, people were talking smack to him that he's crazy, he aimed too high, that he's unrealistic... you have to block things out. It's what you believe in that matters.

 

 

The fear of failure is what causes one to say "it's too risky" or "I'll fail" or "I have a better time doing something else". That's why they never get nowhere.

 

Always treat failure(s) as something that will make you better... because they do if you see them as it.

 

 

It's your FEAR of failure that is your #1 enemy not the failure itself.

 

 

---

 

 

Also, start learning to be decisive RIGHT NOW.

 

Decisiveness cures a lot of things, among them: procrastination and fear.

 

 

Taken from Napoleon Hill's Grow and Think Rich (a book that I recommend you all to read):

 

INDECISION is the seedling of FEAR! INDECISION crystallizes into DOUBT, the two blend and become FEAR! The "blending" process often is slow. This is one reason why these three enemies (INDECISION, DOUBT, FEAR) are so dangerous. They germinate and grow (within oneself) without their presence being observed.

 

The members of this unholy trio (INDECISION, DOUBT, FEAR) are closely related, where one is found, the other two are close at hand.

Edited November 14, 2010 by Multi-Billionaire

[JYD]

I think the fear of failure. Once it happens, it's over, you move on. But to fear it...you continually have it on your mind. Ya feel me dawg?

[MainEv3nt]

i dont really know, im phenomenal

[Multi-Billionaire]

People see successful people, they don't see the struggles these successful people had to overcome to get to the top.

 

 

1.) As a rookie, Kobe airballed three times in the playoffs vs. the Jazz... people were killing him in the media... about why Del Harris put the ball in the hands of a 18 yr old rookie and not Eddie Jones/ Shaq/ Van Exel.

 

Do people still remember this? No. They remember the 81 pt game, the 4 straight 50 pt games, the 10+ games of 40 pts or more, the 35.4 ppg, the etc. People always see success, not failures from successful people... and they say "he's blessed with talent, he's lucky"... and don't want to hear about how difficult it was for Kobe to deal with/ overcome the criticisms and failures early in his career.

 

Here's what 18 yr old DECIDED to do after the storm of criticism: he decided to get better... and not let FEAR of MORE FAILURES/ CRITICISM get the best of him. There are 2 paths: either you see failure as constructive or destructive. By working hard in the summer, and getting better, Kobe "chose" to see his failures as temporary and constructive. He didn't succumb to drugs that some other pro-athletes resorted to when they're criticized in the media.

 

In fact, Kobe once said he saw pressure (FEAR OF FAILURE) as an opportunity for him to rise.

 

 

2.) Donald Trump inherited riches from his dad and became pretty successful in the 1980s, then his businesses just went south, and he was BILLIONS in debt in the early 1990s. People said he's done. Instead of committing suicide or playing a I'm-a-victim mentality, he kept telling himself, "I dug myself a hole, now I must get out of it. And I will become more successful than I was ever before." He got his dad's riches taken away from him, and built himself from scratch. And he is very successful now.

 

Do people want to hear about his 1990s struggles? No, they just say, "ohh Donald Trump is lucky, his dad was rich, he inherited his riches." They just wanna say he's "rich and fortunate", but don't care about how extremely hard Donald worked himself to success, including getting himself out of the BILLION DOLLARS OF DEBT hole.

 

Most people would probably commit suicide, let alone quit, if they're millions in debt. Donald was BILLIONS in debt. That alone speaks volume for his strong mentality... that he's not about to LET his FEAR OF FAILURE block his vision of his own definition of success and dictate how he should live his life.

 

 

 

In the journey to success (whether they're financial, health such as getting slim, happiness, harmony, better relationship, or other achievements), people will be faced with failures. They're inevitable. To achieve success, you must conquer the FEAR OF FAILURE and learn that FAILURES make you better. People who treat their FAILURES as temporary and keep trying with PERSISTENCE will be victorious.

Edited November 14, 2010 by Multi-Billionaire

[Lkr]

I think the fear of failure. Once it happens, it's over, you move on. But to fear it...you continually have it on your mind. Ya feel me dawg?

Yea, that's how im seeing it right now. Nothing to do with success/money/happiness, just a psychological question.

[trutrojan8]

People see successful people, they don't see the struggles these successful people had to overcome to get to the top.

 

 

1.) As a rookie, Kobe airballed three times in the playoffs vs. the Jazz... people were killing him in the media... about why Del Harris put the ball in the hands of a 18 yr old rookie and not Eddie Jones/ Shaq/ Van Exel.

 

Do people still remember this? No. They remember the 81 pt game, the 4 straight 50 pt games, the 10+ games of 40 pts or more, the 35.4 ppg, the etc. People always see success, not failures from successful people... and they say "he's blessed with talent, he's lucky"... and don't want to hear about how difficult it was for Kobe to deal with/ overcome the criticisms and failures early in his career.

 

Here's what 18 yr old DECIDED to do after the storm of criticism: he decided to get better... and not let FEAR of MORE FAILURES/ CRITICISM get the best of him. There are 2 paths: either you see failure as constructive or destructive. By working hard in the summer, and getting better, Kobe "chose" to see his failures as temporary and constructive. He didn't succumb to drugs that some other pro-athletes resorted to when they're criticized in the media.

 

In fact, Kobe once said he saw pressure (FEAR OF FAILURE) as an opportunity for him to rise.

 

 

2.) Donald Trump inherited riches from his dad and became pretty successful in the 1980s, then his businesses just went south, and he was BILLIONS in debt in the early 1990s. People said he's done. Instead of committing suicide or playing a I'm-a-victim mentality, he kept telling himself, "I dug myself a hole, now I must get out of it. And I will become more successful than I was ever before." He got his dad's riches taken away from him, and built himself from scratch. And he is very successful now.

 

Do people want to hear about his 1990s struggles? No, they just say, "ohh Donald Trump is lucky, his dad was rich, he inherited his riches." They just wanna say he's "rich and fortunate", but don't care about how extremely hard Donald worked himself to success, including getting himself out of the BILLION DOLLARS OF DEBT hole.

 

Most people would probably commit suicide, let alone quit, if they're millions in debt. Donald was BILLIONS in debt. That alone speaks volume for his strong mentality... that he's not about to LET his FEAR OF FAILURE block his vision of his own definition of success and dictate how he should live his life.

 

 

 

In the journey to success (whether they're financial, health such as getting slim, happiness, harmony, better relationship, or other achievements), people will be faced with failures. They're inevitable. To achieve success, you must conquer the FEAR OF FAILURE and learn that FAILURES make you better. People who treat their FAILURES as temporary and keep trying with PERSISTENCE will be victorious.

This isn't about your get rich seminars or your martha stewart cook book on noodles...

[BasX]

It's fear of failure. Failure can be seen in different lights depending on the degree of what we consider a failure. In school, for me, the thought of me failing a test can live with me for the duration until I get the mark. Failing the test makes me want to get better. Humans hate to have uncertainty and adding failure to the mix creates a worse situation for me. Failing just feels like a chapter closing, fear of failure is a never ending book with plot turns and such.

Edited November 14, 2010 by BasX

[YugoRocketsFan]

People see successful people, they don't see the struggles these successful people had to overcome to get to the top.

 

 

1.) As a rookie, Kobe airballed three times in the playoffs vs. the Jazz... people were killing him in the media... about why Del Harris put the ball in the hands of a 18 yr old rookie and not Eddie Jones/ Shaq/ Van Exel.

 

Do people still remember this? No. They remember the 81 pt game, the 4 straight 50 pt games, the 10+ games of 40 pts or more, the 35.4 ppg, the etc. People always see success, not failures from successful people... and they say "he's blessed with talent, he's lucky"... and don't want to hear about how difficult it was for Kobe to deal with/ overcome the criticisms and failures early in his career.

 

Here's what 18 yr old DECIDED to do after the storm of criticism: he decided to get better... and not let FEAR of MORE FAILURES/ CRITICISM get the best of him. There are 2 paths: either you see failure as constructive or destructive. By working hard in the summer, and getting better, Kobe "chose" to see his failures as temporary and constructive. He didn't succumb to drugs that some other pro-athletes resorted to when they're criticized in the media.

 

In fact, Kobe once said he saw pressure (FEAR OF FAILURE) as an opportunity for him to rise.

 

 

2.) Donald Trump inherited riches from his dad and became pretty successful in the 1980s, then his businesses just went south, and he was BILLIONS in debt in the early 1990s. People said he's done. Instead of committing suicide or playing a I'm-a-victim mentality, he kept telling himself, "I dug myself a hole, now I must get out of it. And I will become more successful than I was ever before." He got his dad's riches taken away from him, and built himself from scratch. And he is very successful now.

 

Do people want to hear about his 1990s struggles? No, they just say, "ohh Donald Trump is lucky, his dad was rich, he inherited his riches." They just wanna say he's "rich and fortunate", but don't care about how extremely hard Donald worked himself to success, including getting himself out of the BILLION DOLLARS OF DEBT hole.

 

Most people would probably commit suicide, let alone quit, if they're millions in debt. Donald was BILLIONS in debt. That alone speaks volume for his strong mentality... that he's not about to LET his FEAR OF FAILURE block his vision of his own definition of success and dictate how he should live his life.

 

 

 

In the journey to success (whether they're financial, health such as getting slim, happiness, harmony, better relationship, or other achievements), people will be faced with failures. They're inevitable. To achieve success, you must conquer the FEAR OF FAILURE and learn that FAILURES make you better. People who treat their FAILURES as temporary and keep trying with PERSISTENCE will be victorious.

 

The beast has awaken

[Big Penny]

the fear of failure.

 

bieng afraid to fail makes you afraid to try.

[Multi-Billionaire]

the fear of failure.

 

bieng afraid to fail makes you afraid to try.

 

This...

 

He sums up 75% of my posts in 2 sentences. I love ya man

[Real Deal]

You learn from failing. You don't learn anything from fearing.

[kingfish]

The only thing to fear, is fear, itself.

[Universe]

Failure. Fearing the failure means you still have that chance to overcome the failure while failure means you missed the shot or failed the test.

[Big Penny]

This...

 

He sums up 75% of my posts in 2 sentences. I love ya man

^_^

[Oliver P]

Obviously the fear of failure.

 

As Multi said it failure is inevitable. No matter what you do through your life you will have to fail soon or later. It is inexorable. In fact the people who do not fail are the people who do not even try to succeed, so the people who are afraid to fail. As Lil' Penny said the fear of failure will keep you from trying, it can ONLY make you fail.

 

Both succesful and unsuccesful people fail, but the difference between them is that succesful people learn from their failures and can only become stronger. As Real Deal said you can, and I would even say you will have to, learn from your failure while you can't do anything outta fear. Fear is useless. Everyone has to deal with fear, there is no one on this planet who is never afraid at times, but the succesful people are the ones who manage to dominate their fear.

 

Failing will not make you a loser, being afraid to fail and spend your life doing nothing will. Therefore the real losers are in fact the ones who are afraid to fail.

[fish7718]

The fear of failure is infinitely worse than failure itself.

[Multi-Billionaire]

Obviously the fear of failure.

 

As Multi said it failure is inevitable. No matter what you do through your life you will have to fail soon or later. It is inexorable. In fact the people who do not fail are the people who do not even try to succeed, so the people who are afraid to fail. As Lil' Penny said the fear of failure will keep you from trying, it can ONLY make you fail.

 

Both succesful and unsuccesful people fail, but the difference between them is that succesful people learn from their failures and can only become stronger. As Real Deal said you can, and I would even say you will have to, learn from your failure while you can't do anything outta fear. Fear is useless. Everyone has to deal with fear, there is no one on this planet who is never afraid at times, but the succesful people are the ones who manage to dominate their fear.

 

Failing will not make you a loser, being afraid to fail and spend your life doing nothing will. Therefore the real losers are in fact the ones who are afraid to fail.

 

 

Awesome post man, I agree 100%. ^_^

 

ALL successful people have had a failure or setback at least once in their life, whether it's small or big. And they take those failures as a lesson/ motivation that drives them forward.

 

It's said if you haven't failed at least once, you are not truly successful yet.

 

In relationships, couples that have long lasting relationships always have arguments. In business endeavors, there must be a one or two setbacks before they are truly successful.

 

You have to expect and be PREPARED... and cannot be SURPRISED by setbacks. People who are surprised (instead of prepared) by failures often cannot deal with the disappointment and therefore a majority of them quit. But if you expect and are prepared of any setback, you ready yourself mentally and are better equipped when failures hit than those who were not prepared, just by acknowledging and expecting a small setback or two along the way.