Warren2ThaG Posted September 29, 2009 Report Share Posted September 29, 2009 Parents might say "honesty is the best policy," but when it comes to interacting with their own kids, mom and dad stretch the truth with the best of them, finds a new study. From claiming the existence of magical creatures to odd consequences of kids' actions, parents often come up with creative tales to shape a child's behaviors and emotions. "We are surprised by how often parenting by lying takes place," said study researcher Kang Lee of the University of Toronto, Canada. "Our findings showed that even the parents who most strongly promoted the importance of honesty with their children engaged in parenting by lying." Lee and colleagues acknowledge that their work is preliminary, bringing to the forefront an issue that is rarely studied. They are not sure the implications of parental lying, but suggest such tall tales could give kids mixed messages at a time when they are trying to figure out how to navigate the social world. Lies could also harm parent-child bonds, said study researcher Gail Heyman of the University of California, San Diego. It could even keep children from learning certain rules. "If I am always lying to the child in order to get the child to do X, Y, or Z, then they have never learned why they should do X, Y, or Z," said Victoria Talwar of McGill University in Montreal, who was not involved in the current study. "If it's constantly being used, [lying] may be preventing learning opportunities for the child."---http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,557260,00.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheNextBestThing Posted September 29, 2009 Report Share Posted September 29, 2009 "Surprisingly" often? Exactly who's surprised? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigdog17k Posted September 29, 2009 Report Share Posted September 29, 2009 This isn't that surprising. You don't want to hurt little kids feelings, I say it changes a lot as they get older. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YugoRocketsFan Posted September 29, 2009 Report Share Posted September 29, 2009 It all starts with telling your kid about "god" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigdog17k Posted September 29, 2009 Report Share Posted September 29, 2009 It all starts with telling your kid about "god" No, that's a parents choice. If don't like that then don't tell your kids. I am a Christian, and I hate it when people like you judge us. So what, you have your beliefs we have ours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YugoRocketsFan Posted September 29, 2009 Report Share Posted September 29, 2009 No, that's a parents choice. If don't like that then don't tell your kids. I am a Christian, and I hate it when people like you judge us. So what, you have your beliefs we have ours. I dont have beliefs. Id rather trust facts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Feelgood Posted September 29, 2009 Report Share Posted September 29, 2009 I dont have beliefs. Id rather trust facts. Ok, you trust the facts, let him believe what he wants to believe. It's his choice. As far as lying goes, I'm not surprised by it. I've lied to younger kids before...more often than I thought now that I think about it. Hah hah. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Poe Posted September 29, 2009 Report Share Posted September 29, 2009 It all starts with telling your kid about "god"It's not a lie when the parents actually believe in it themselves, since a lie has to be intentional. I do believe that parents should either teach their kids the ideas of all religions or none at all. Young children are pretty much programmed to believe everything that their parents tell them, and too many parents impose their religion on their child before he or she is even old enough to have any skeptical thinking towards what they are told. I think it should be illegal to officially name a child to be a part of a religion until he reaches a certain age, like somewhere between 16-18, when the kid is old enough to think for himself, when he or she is old enough to examine the ideas written in old books and the lifestyle involved before deciding for themselves whether they are the truth or not. It disgusts me to see people naming their child a religious child before it is even born yet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigdog17k Posted September 29, 2009 Report Share Posted September 29, 2009 ^ A lot of people grow up in a strong religious family, and then announce they don't believe the same, etc. So I don't see a problem with it, it's about you, and what you believe. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Poe Posted September 29, 2009 Report Share Posted September 29, 2009 ^ A lot of people grow up in a strong religious family, and then announce they don't believe the same, etc. So I don't see a problem with it, it's about you, and what you believe.That's only less than roughly 5%. If that. And skeptics don't believe something unless they have a reason to know it's true. The reason is evidence and logic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OldChili Posted September 30, 2009 Report Share Posted September 30, 2009 It all starts with telling your kid about "god" Anyway, I don't find it much of a surprise. Not sure who they were referring to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Multi-Billionaire Posted September 30, 2009 Report Share Posted September 30, 2009 When your dad says "I used to play in the NBA", you know it's time to stop listening to him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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